Hi again Strange, Thanks for your reply at my post. Hope this message finds you in good spirits, I know I feel better. not healed, but better.
I want to thank you for the link to the Rolling Stone's tune, I needed that. I keep thinking I've reached my limit, with trying to KAL, In the separation, her filing the D, 3 months ago, the moving the OM in, and the baby. I feel like such a fool sometimes, cause it seems like no matter what she does, I still love her.
I just wanted to tell you, I agree with NDDT, about filing for the D, I also never wanted it, she cheated on me, but before I knew it, I had decided to leave for what I thought at the time was good reasons, So when it all came out in the wash, I had my chance to file, and turned it down, I did ask the lawyer if it mattered who filed first, and was told that if you want to be in control of the D, then you should. Well, I didn't care at that time, so I didn't, and she did, but now the custody, visitation, and CS is all screwed up, and right now, I can't afford to fight it.
I told the W, that I wouldn't pay a single cent for it, it is her mess, she can pay for it all, and I mean it all, in our state, if you have children, you have both to go to some children of D class, to learn how to be parents after a D, and I've been putting it off, because not only do I not have the money, I don't want to go, because, I think this whole thing is an interference in my life, Well she told me a while back, that might be keeping the D from being final, Well, I am going to tell her, that if she wants me to go, she can pay for not only the class, but my gas to the place, if she doesn't, then I will put it off, forever, or till I can get it waived by a judge. I am not doing anything to help her get this thing over with, it's on her, as with everything else, she's the one who gave up, not me. I don't care how much the D, is costing her, it's not my problem. My problem is the custody, visitation, and CS issues, and I will deal with them, when I have the money.
The simple fact is this, if you want to be in control of it, file it, even if it's not what you want. You can stop it anytime, you know, if W files then your kind of at her mercy, she could have a change of heart, might even wake her up, when the papers come, but then again...you never know. Take care.
