Hey husband... I am glad that you are making progress. It appears, at least now, that your hard work is paying dividends. Keep it going, and do not give up!!
ALL OF US are doing the right thing, and we need to stay positive and keep up the momentum!! If you are reading this, I am talking about YOU!
Once you got married, that sense of mystery disappeared. You saw each other every day and knew how the other person slept, dressed, even brushed their teeth. Yet some degree of mystery and surprise is always necessary in a relationship. It’s the spice that tantalizes your partner and encourages him to stay interested in you. If you are always doing more new and exciting things, (like man panties) your partner will be curious and want to know more. That sense of not knowing you completely will reignite the feelings he had when he first started pursuing you.
I see this happening
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok...bud, if MC is the skinny-dude hotpants guy, you are the MAN-PANTIES guy.
Ok...I'm sitting here, thinking of all you nice people, a broken-hearts club of sorts, all trying to save their marriages, or, perhaps, make it another day with hope and dignity. I'm smiling and realizing that I'm not alone in this...THANKS
I'm going to go split wood today. (have a firewood busnis on the side). It's a manly thing. Even have girly magazinnes in the shop. I think they are from 1968.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey Husband. Very "worn out" right now. This being by myself w/ the 3 boys isn't easy. I don't have any time to myself and I'm just feeling real worn down right now. PMS'ing most likely
Everything's going awesome w/ H. We had another "cyber date" last night w/ the webcam. He's constantly telling me how much he misses me. Sent me some pics and he had his ring on in them. It was when they were playing football too and I'm sure he wasn't thinking "wife is going to see pics of this so I better have my ring on."
As far as my OP goes, not even going to refer to him as "OM" anymore, he emailed last week. Still pretty inappropriate stuff. And I have to say that it still made me feel good and I was still enjoying it. I'm just being honest, but after the last few days of talking w/ H, etc., I've realized that it needs to STOP. I have not done or said anything that would "get me in trouble," however, I also didn't flat out say "enough" to OP either. I'm done w/ that now. It was nice to know that someone other than H finds me attractive. After the whole D sitch, even knowing H still found me attractive was somewhat doubtful at times. I know that's just my insecurities talking, but you know . . . .
Anyway, onward & upward. It CAN get better folks.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10