Oh, don't think my mind hasn't gone to that lower level ... as a matter of fact, she placed a posting on a board (for people that frequent SP's and give reviews, if you can believe it) and she said that her family, friends and neighbours would be "shocked" to know what she did for a living - hmmmm, I might have to use that for ammo if she doesn't stop calling H huh?
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I'd hate to be so mean but then, on the other hand, she is exactly cooperating now is she ... hmmmmm
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I'd hate to be so mean but then, on the other hand, she is exactly cooperating now is she ... hmmmmm
I fail to see what would be mean about protecting your interests.
If someone has a gun to my head, and I shoot first, what is mean about that?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I see your point NOP but it is not my nature to be vindictive and I see calling and threatening her just that. But, on the other hand, I do have to fight for what I believe in but I am doubtful my H would see it that way. After all, he is the one that refuses to set her straight and tell her point blank to stop calling
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I see your point NOP but it is not my nature to be vindictive and I see calling and threatening her just that.
I don't see that as vindictive, rather a strategy to be used in encouraging her not to contact hubby.
If I was one of the parents whose child she was teaching, it would matter to me if she were basically prostituting herself.
Vindictive speaks to revenge. I wouldn't encourage you to get revenge, but I would encourage you to get her stopped.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
It's not vindictive to use what's at your disposal to get your point across to her that she is NOT wanted in your relationship. It's protecting YOUR territory...standing up for YOUR relationship...ensuring she backs the he!! off!
Vindictive is IMPO, doing something to her after the fact (once she backs off.)...THAT would be vindictive; as NOPs already said "revenge", this is not revenge. This is her incentive to stay the he!! away from YOUR husband.
Yeah, but I get the impression that Hey's H would get p*ssed off at her if she called the girl and that's why she's not going to do it.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
He's not unreasonable but he would definitely see my actions (if I was to call her and/or threaten her in anyway) as unnecessary because he would say there was no harm in it, he told me about it, she's 150 miles away from us, he has no feelings for her etc. etc. - you name it, he would have an answer (aka excuse)
But I totally see where you are all coming from. I think I will bring it to his attention this evening. It has been bugging me ever since he told me. Now, it is GREAT that he told me because even though I would have seen her call on his cell bill (which I did) the two times that she called (that he told me about) and left VM messages don't show up as such, they just show as an incoming call, billed to his number and no number from where they came from so had he not told me, I would never have known they were from her. Now, having said that, I presume that is what he was looking at last night before he handed the cell bill over to me. He seemed to be checking it quite thoroughly. I wonder if he clued into the fact that unless he answers the call, it doesn't show up. If she leaves a VM and he calls to retrieve it all it shows up as is him call the message centre - so she could have called numerous times on this cell bill and I would never have known it. I guess time will tell if he continues to tell me (another reason for maybe letting it go another month) - should be interesting at the ST appt Monday
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
