Chicki - The problem for me with "setting him free" is that I have told him to go if that's what he feels will make him happy. I've also asked him why he hasn't gone if he feels that big of a connection to ow and that it's the "safer road to happines". He's immobilized by this fear of making the "wrong" decision I guess.. Fear of being another statistic.. Fear of messing up his kid for life..
