I understand what the others are saying, but if I were in your situation, I would tap every contact I had to get bf a job. I would be very reluctant to throw any friend or former friend out on the street with nowhere to go--and especially not one who seems as helpless as this one is. It is possible to discard people without any fanfare, and without caring what will happen to them, because we want someone else, but I'm not sure that this is what you want to be doing. You want him out of your life as quickly as possible, though. And, as Alamogirl says, he is still acting like a boyfriend, throwing fits of jealousy.
What does your ex think about the situation? You both seem to want to work on your relationship. I assume that you've talked to him about the bf's drama. Since your ex was compassionate enough to let a female friend (though she was not his gf) live with the two of you in your house when she was having hard times, I would think that he would understand why you haven't yet turned the bf loose with no job. But he may NOT understand, as many would not, or he may not trust that the relationship is dead. How your ex feels about it is the important thing, I would think. Your relationship with him seems smoother now. I hope that the two of you are being very open with each other.
