This can be a dangerous time. MLCers in this phase--slowly returning and possibly Acceptance waiver like they did in the beginning.
In the beginning it confused the newbie LBS. It still confuses, but now the LBS has found peace, strength, inner happiness...and is often thus less willing to put up with to her what seems Bullsh*t.
Your journey is at your pace. But the same is true for him. If you want him back, you need to let him move at his pace. Breaking up is hard to do...the song was truthful. And breaking up with an OW is often even harder...they have crab like claws and use them to cling. Sure it hurts, but he can't seem to get rid of her.
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I know my next move will push him away - possibly for good this time. But I don't think I can stop myself.
This is true if you make it so. It is more likely to be true of you think, feel and believe it is. ...So change your words. Change your thoughts. Change what you believe. Control your emotions and feelings.
Are you angry or sad? If you DO bring up the OW, what will your tone, features and emotions reveal? Concern with a touch of sadness brought up in a soft manner may open him up more. If you MUST bring it up, try it softly. But first goal is to avoid it.
