You mentioned a lot about your wife's "Lying".
I'm in the same boat. At this point in time, I believe nothing that she says.
I'd like to hear others view on lying, for you and me.
I think it's a really real issue. I mentioned to OM BS my wife's character flaw, including lying, lack of empathy, etc. thru this (She is a doctor), and she said that this is beyond "Character Flaw". Something to think about.