CVA - Thread 2, Hold mode

[Not Much Left]

Hey Kat
How are you doing? I will check out your thread in a bit.

Ya know, the thing is, I am the "crazed doer". I do EVERYTHING in our house except cooking when I am around. Cleaning, laundry, appts for kids, again, if I am not working and i have ditched a lot of work to do this stuff over the years and this is where MY resentment and anger in our R comes from. It is no secret to me. No appreciation for anything and I just finally realized it is how I am and not how she is. It is not that she is a slob, on the contrary, she just does everything in "her time" which is about 1/2 my speed....result...frustration, high expectations I know.

So to your pt, I dont know what to do? We finally decided to hire someone to help around the house, so that is now pretty much taken care of. So as far as her stressers are concerned, i am pretty much it. I complained, whined about our cleaning lady and how much it was costing because I now saw my W not doing a lot other than cooking..and homework...is that equitable? No, but so what, I NEEDED A DIFFERENT ATTITUDE toward the whole thing.

Help is appreciated on this one. Do you kind of see inside our house on this now? I do a lot at full speed, but whined about it, therefore she pulls back and says "I did not ask you to do that", get a cleaning lady, I whine about it, she resents me for complaining and does even less...and on, and on, and on.

Let me know what you think, sorry, got on a frantic roll there.

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