OK, this may have backfired on me. Here is how it went down: Immediately after dinner, the phone rings. It's her best friend (the one who has been helping her hide the affair from me). They talk for a while, then I hear WAW say: "OK, that sounds good, pick me up in an hour." Then she hangs up and says, "Do you have plans tonite?" Me: yes her: where are you going? me: out her: which car are you driving? <<Note: second q is about the car... HER car>> me: the Buick (the nice one) her: when will you be home? me: later her: when were you planning to tell me this? me: oh, I don't know, some time before I left. So I go upstairs to shower and change. I strip down naked and walk toward the bathroom to shower. She blocks the bathroom door. Me: OK, I don't really need to shower <<As I am getting dressed, she sees that I am putting on some decent clothes>>
Her: Does this mean you are moving forward? me: yes, I am moving forward into the closet <<Walk into closet>> her: no, I mean does this mean that you have gotten to a different place? me: yes, I am now in the closet... her: i guess this means you're ready <<by this time I am dressed>> me: yep, I am ready to go <<walking out the door>> her: no, I think this is good. you go on your date. i can see that you're accepting what's happening. this is good. me: You warned me once not to misinterpret your actions. I suggest you take your own advice <<prob a mistake to say this>> her: well, next time you go out, can you let me know in advance? her: <<As I am walking out>> have fun
I played 7-stud. I got down about $60 early, then ended up about $25. Rolled home around 1:00. I could see thru the windows they were all awake. So I went back to my car and slept until 3:00 (parked in the street). I know she was aware that I got home that late (I heard her stirring, checking the time - she sleeps in a different room). Plus, the 14 year old was up, and he grilled me about why I got home so late.
Next morning, no questions about where I was or what I did, or when I got home. Nothing.
I think this backfired. She thinks I went on a date, and have accepted the inevitability of the divorce. I fear that I may have hastened the D along by showing her that I have moved on. I understand the value of GAL and everything, but I think it was a mistake to go out last night (add to that a wicked hangover...). Somebody convince me I did the right thing... Mark
