don't know if affair still going on

[RedHeadWife]

You need to immediately get some books: "After the Affair" and especially "Divorce Remedy."

If you want to work your M out, even though H had an A, you need to start DB'ing like crazy. It seems you still have *hope* that he wants to work things out.

I think at the point where you are, you probably could talk to him. In fact, I think you should tell him that you want to work your M out. NO BEGGING, PLEADING, etc. Just tell him that you are dealing w/ and working through emotions, etc. because of his A, but want to get your M back on track.

Figure out what you did or did not do to get your M to where it was. Work on you and changing things positively. Obviously, he CHOSE to have an A, it was NOT YOUR FAULT. You did not force him into it or anything along those lines. However, if there are things you can change for the better, than do that.

Work on yourself. Figure out what you want for you. Make him see what he would be losing.

Go to the library TODAY and get Divorce Remedy and take it to heart. It works, trust me!