The fat lady is warming up.... 2

[OldFool]

Well, I survived yesterday...16 Jul...my would-have-been 13th wedding anniversary.

Good for you. I'm not looking forward to what would be my 8th.

Anyway, H told me that he's living in his car with his son. For a short while, I felt really bad, and then I shook it off.

I hear you. My STBXW keeps hinting at problems she's having (off work for three weeks, going to doctor, has to move out of her place, etc.) and there was a time that such things would bother me. However, she's made her own decisions and created the life she is now living. I had no choice in that and if it has turned out poorly for her, it is neither my problem nor my concern.

It was a pretty lousy day for me but I rose above it.

I bet! Sounds like you made it through OK, though.

I still get these crazy thoughts that maybe someday, we can get back together. Am I freakin nuts?

No. In fact, it sometimes happens. But it requires considerable maturity on the part of both individuals and a lot of "growing up" on the part of the WAS...which doesn't often happen.

All in all, life is good as crazy as it may sound. Dealing with a troubled child or elderly parents is a heck of a lot worse than dealing with a WAH.

As they say, if you're wallowing in self-pity and think your life is the worst, you're probably not looking closely enough.

Well, I am wishing good things for your future and hope all is going well in your life.

I remain in limbo. I keep urging my STBXW to agree to a settlement, finish picking up her stuff (what very little is left), and get things rolling. She, however, continues to drag her feet. I can't understand why and my patience is running thin.

It is done...my divorce was final today, 20 Jul 07.

I'm sorry...and happy...for you. It is sad to close the book on what started out as such a promising journey. But it is also a relief to close a book that has caused such pain and now only holds you back from a better tomorrow. I am thinking of you and hoping you are well.

Let me tell you that this BB has been a great support system for me. Thank you for all your support.

I hope you'll still drop in every now and again and let us know how you're doing.