Of course there were happy times in your M. A M is made up of good times and bad times and when H and W are both willing to make a M work, there are more good times and less of the not so good times. Your H chooses not to remember the good times so he doesn't have to work on on the M and convinces himself that he is justified in his actions.
He believes it's easier to give up and start over with someone else. That means no R will ever work because it takes years to take a M to a deeper understanding of Love where Love is no longer an infatuation but something more than that.
I too, have been trying to remember all the good times and know that the M was not a mistake. Unfortunately, I only have a few pictures as I gave H all the pictures when he left. Sometimes I regret that.
Checked out your Disney pics. You look like you had a great time. I can see it in your smile.
Sorry I didn't call, I had a water leak and S-21 and I managed to stop the leak at least temporarily.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
Sometimes, it's hard for me to remember the good times. Funny isn't it? That's all I could see at first, but now it seems like they are just fading away. Actually, it's more that what I thought were good times were actually not that great. Not all, of course, but a good part of the last several years. I wonder if that could have been resolved. Probably - but we both needed to grow up.
I think this thread might lock up, so here's a new one:
nicola....I hear the same. The other day, I was sitting across from my W at dinner, and, for the first time, she looked 'older' and in somes ways, she seemed to be a stranger. I guess that is what happens when two people don't discuss their hopes and dreams together anymore. Sad.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
