Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner, but got busy for a little bit. I hope your night went well!
I think that you should still make sure that if H wants to come back (and you want him back), he needs to be 110% committed to facing and dealing with his anger and control issues. Until he does this, I don't think your R/M will get to a point where both of you can be happy. Yes, you will have to do the lion's share of the work in getting him back, and having him there would allow you to DB and fill his love tank, but I see a a fair amount of poor communication going at times, esp when H gets angry. I'd like to know your thoughts on all of this.
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In the past week H has complimented be more and more on my cooking. He knows I don't offer for him to eat w/ ius anymore,but lately he will taste some and make a good comment"your cooking is gettign better or can you beleive I've missed your cooking!
This is great! I'm not sure what how to read his comment that he "still cares about you," but he might have left it at that because flat out saying "I love you" is opening a giant can of worms. He is checking out the picnic while staying very close to his castle.
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He was really in a good mood that day, he even told D10 to take her of mommy & she said why? B/c your the oldest now here an dits your job to. He leaned over and gave me a big kiss on the cheek (had been a while since that).
Again, this is very good stuff (as well as the sitting down with you guys, eating and talking about his day). I would caution you to monitor these changes in him -- make sure he's not thinking quick fix. These kinds of things need to last, right?
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She must make good $ also (big factor for H, less $ to worry about).OW offered to help him in the house payments!! She is beign so goooood to him. How can he not be in love w/ her? It's been too long to still be in the infatuation phase, he said he's past that. So what gives?? I asked if he was going to take OW up on her offer to help w/ the house payments & he said no that is not her promblem it is btw you & me.
Your pysching yourself out here. What gives is that he's now debating what he wants to do. You need to stay happy, upbeat, confident, calm, etc, and make yourself someone he would never want to leave. Remind him of the girl he fell in love with in the first place and what he's going to be missing out on if he decides to D. And bring your sexy back too!
