I did not do very well, I admit. The word "whore" may have come up a time or two. She claims to be dedicated to the idea of a divorce, despite her continued actions to the contrary. She is also still planning on going to see OM next week, so I guess the rumors of break-up were a bit overblown (I still think something happened, but oh well).
I tried the "5 the hard way", but I could not get her to come around to my thinking. It did kind of rattle her, though. I think.
Tough love all around. I gave not an inch. As we left it, she can get on the plane and come back to an absolutely brutal divorce, including putting her former lover on the stand and destroying her current OM's relationship with his kids, OR, she can break off all contact with OM, see a therapist of her chosing, and I will work with her to reach any resolution she desires.
I have no idea which way she will go, but I'm done messing around. I told her that I will not take S while she is gone, because I will not lie to him and I just can't tell him the truth.
I will be going to the lawyer on Monday, no matter what. I will not file until I am sure she got on the plane, but I will be ready to carry through on my promise. I told her we could build something great together, tried to teach her some of what I have learned about how marriages really work, but I doubt she bought any of it.
