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I think my ex and I's biggest issue is trust.


sounds like this is true.

He wants to be able to trust you.
You wont show him you can be trusted.

Why wont you be open and honest with him? What is YOUR issue here, preventing you from sharing with your husband?
?

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I would like to start asap, but he wants to wait until the bf is completly gone....


so get rid of the bf asap. problem solved.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle