i'm not saying that there is an affair. I'm just trying to point out to the casual reader, that
"wife saying ILYBINILWY" is NOT the same thing as "wife is a walk-away wife" \:\)

(i also find your description kinda odd, since usually, WAW is along the lines of,
"wife tries to change marriage... FAILS... goes into defensive mode, then gives up on marriage and plans for silent 'exit', after some amount of time, or specific event happens"

(such as children growing up, or graduation from school, or...)



whereas you described... "wife tries to change marriage.. SUCCEEDS ;\) but then didnt like what she got out of the change".

ALSO.. the whole "I feel trapped.. I have no sense of self", is actually closer to describing MLC, then WAW.

MLC is about them. WAW is about you.


Not that every leaving spouse HAS to be either WAW or MLC.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle