Hi, thanks for your advice. I did make a move in the right direction this morning. When I started to leave for work, I hugged his neck and just stood there and lingered a moment to let him know that it was a sincere move and not one that was forced. You are right in what you say. It is so sad at how distant a couple can become by not talking....not being intimate...not spending time together. It all adds up. My problems....as I used to tell him time aftr time...was when we went so long without being intimate, then it was hard for me. I don't know why...just the way I am. However, when we would have sex on a regular basis...it wasn't much of a problem for me. The thing was....it never seem to be on a regular basis, so then H would think I was acting cold toward him, etc. So, after years of that going on....it finally just fizzled out completely.

Anyway, thanks for the advice. My goal for the weekend is to finish reading DR. I have spent every night on the computer just reading posts here on this board and other information I could find on the internet. But, got side-tracked from the book and got to get back and finish it. In fact, I have spent so much time on here reading posts until it has left little time for H. Guess that is defeating the purpose!! But, I needed the space from him and the time to try to re-group and get my head on straight. He has been very understanding about it. But, now it is time for me to start spending more time in doing the things I use to do before OM came along and my world turned inside out.

Last edited by sandi2; 07/20/07 08:07 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!