I dunno JR. I was a WAH and I couldn't get that divorce done fast enough. Nothing she said or did could convince me not to end it.
Of course, she changed nothing so there was that. I did go back after my A failed but it was still horrible and 5 months later my current W put the move on me.
I know exactly what you're talking about there. SO, if things had changed, if she had been different, or better, or whatever you needed, would you have stayed? MAYBE not, but the likelihood would have been much higher, right? At least you went back for the one last chance even though it didn't work out. so when you did leave for good, it was for sure, and you knew it was over, no second-guessing.
What if your wife came back right now for the one last chance. What would she see? The same old Jazz? NOPE! She'd see the opportunity for the things she's always wanted in her M and WHOA! She doesn't have to get divorced and start over to get it. that is the key to Michelle's article for both parties. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater! Get rid of the crappy parts of your old relationship, but save the marriage and family and the good stuff. It is all possible with positive change!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
