Hi sweety ..............glad to hear you did such fun things ! I didn't know your H had a 13 year old son ?! wow ! Do you know his mom ? How does that story go ?
I don't think there isn't anything left to deal with by the way - he's just choosing to ignore it for now, OR he isn't showing YOU !!! Remember - WE are the LAST to KNOW !!!!
I think you're doing FANTASTIC !! Still SO proud of you !!!!!!
Love always xxxxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders - I dont know my husbands previous wife very well, they married very young and because she got pregnant. They were togehter for about 3 years but my husband was in the Army ans so away alot. The story i have always been told is that she cheated on him numerous times which is why he was always adamant that he would never cheat and despised people who did. He also always told me that he never loved her, at one point i said to him that at some point he must have thought he did, he said he did think he did but then realised that it wasn't love. My husband has never had a close relationship with his son, which is why i was so proud of him for going to pick him up so he could spend some time with him.
I went to the gym tonight and had a good workout, it's getting a bit easier but still tirering . I didn't realise i was so unfit lol .
hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Had a good few days. My husband had D3 last night so made the most of my free time . I went to a BBQ yeserday afternoon, then went out with my mum for a while and then met up with some friends later on. Today it was my nephews birthday, so D3 and i went to his party.
Nothing much to report with regards to my husband, he continues to be pleasant but thats as far as it goes. He took D3 swimming this morning but according to D3 OW and OW's S4 went again. I don't understand why my husband cannot even try to have some alone time with D3 considering the fact he only sees her evey other weekend now, OW and OW's S4 get to see him every day. I had a conversation with him about this last week, i explained to him that i thought it was important that D3 gets to spend some alone time with him and he agreed but i think it must have fell on deaf hears because he didn't take her swimming on his own.
Husband goes to majorca on Friday for a long weekend, apparently he is meeting OW and some friends who will already be out there, i presume it is partly to celebrate his birthday which is on Sunday. He had no inclination to spend any of his birthday with D3, no invite to anything, not even so much as a bite to eat before he goes away. I suppose i didn't expect anything else really, why would i, D3 and i are only a small part of his life now.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Nicky, I wonder the same thing. It kills me that my H no longer spends time with the boys alone. He always has the ow around them. S6 even told me that it's more fun when she isn't there.
I just feel sorry for D3, it is not about me anymore. He is a good dad but seems to have just got lost along the way. He does make sure that he has D3 when arranged and picks her up on time etc and he has always made sure that he provides the money that we agreed to support D3. I did tell him last weekend that he is the only one in control of the relationship he has with D3, i just hope that he will start to spend some quality time with her.
Also D3 told me once again today that she slept in my husbands and Ow's bed for part of the night, in her words when it was dark. That tells me that she did not just go in, in the morning. I have asked husband about this before as he knows that it is completley not acceptable for D3 to be in their bed. He assured me that it was not happening and that he respected her too much to allow that to happen. I want to beleive him but D3 has said this on a number of occasions and do wonder, does anyone have any thoughts on this?.
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
I'm sorry that your H may be taking D3 into bed at night with him and ow....maybe you could suggest to him that he goes and lies down with D3 until she's asleep or no longer scared ..
I can see your worry and 'not liking' this....I'd find it unacceptable too !
I do think that you are STRONG and UNSELFISH !!! I admire you greatly !!!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I am appalled at the thought of your H putting your D3 in bed with him and OW. This is totally unacceptable. I think I would very strongly suggest that this not happen and ask H why D3 would say this if it is not true. IMO this should be confronted and not let slide. H should know just how unacceptable this is.
You are a much stronger person than I am. I am afraid I would reacted from emotion and not given myself time to find the best way to approach it. I am not suggesting you blast your H but I do suggest that you be as firm as possible with this boundary.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Had a good few days, the weather has been nice so been having fun with D3, making the most of the fresh air . She seems to be missing her Daddy alot lately, keeps asking for him.
My husband has gone away for a long weekend to Majorca, meeting OW and all her friends out there. I asked him if he was looking forard to his weekend away, he just said "you think i would be wouldn't you", almost making out that he was not looking forward to it. Lately i have noticed that he keeps making comments about being too old for things, i think with regard to partying etc. Also he has been looking for another job these last couple of weeks because he is unhappy where he is. He has D3 yesterday for a couple of hours and i had to text him about something and he phoned back straight away, he sounded like he had been crying. I did ask him if he was ok, he said he was.
He has been extremely pleasant this week, more contact . I must admit i have found it upsetting that as a write this my husband is in a place with OW that we have been to on a couple of occasions on holiday together, nice memories that i hope he remembers while he is there.
Hope everyone is ok
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
. I didn't realise i was so unfit lol 
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