You people are missing the point regarding CeMar’s POV regarding happiness
I think I get Cemar's point, but it seems like he thinks he can sit around and wait for things to happen the way he thinks they should happen. We all know life doesn't work that way. We create our own reality, we must create our own happiness. Cemar has his views and he wants the rest of the world to conform to them and make him happy. It sure would be great if things could work that way, but we usually learn at quite a young age that people don't do what we want them to just because we want them to. For some reason, Cemar seems to be having trouble accepting that and he falls back on his morals when he is questioned about moving on if he can't make it work out. So, he's put himself in a no-win situation and made a comfy little space out of being a victim. I haven't seen much indication that he's willing to step outside of that space.
There absolutely has to be priorities in life and most of us have at least rudimentary boundaries. Cemar has indicated that because of his values, he will be married for life. He has made that his top priority, nothing else can shake that. So, he is putting his values first. With that comes consequences, same as someone who chooses to have an A and put their values on the back burner. Opposite ends of the moral spectrum, but consequences nonetheless. We choose our happiness and Cemar is quite obviously choosing his, but he's playing the victim so well that sometimes it is hard to see it.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
