So your saying that if I live in a passionless marriage, I should be just as happy as if I lived in a passionate marriage?
Of course not. But you can still be happy. Being miserable only reduces your chances of getting a passionate marriage while leaving you miserable. Not too smart!
From the age of 12 to 18 (or even later) our parents considered it one of their most important duties to ensure that our sexual needs were never, ever met. And yet, sometimes we managed to be happy. I know I was from time to time. I would have been a lot happier if I'd had my head screwed on straight, but I still managed to find some happiness every now and then.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
