CeMar, were you never happy before your wife entered your life? Based on your statement I'm lead to believe that in your single days....you must have been completely miserable, because you didn't have someone to place all of the responsibility on for making you happy. I mean, there were bound to be dry spells, sexually speaking, when you were single....so you must have just been completely miserable then too....right? That IS the logic you are using.
I'm an HD woman....I went for 10 years as a single woman after my divorce. I had a few boyfriends in those years...but there were large chunks of time (years) when I didn't have anyone in my life in that capacity, and didn't date either...I was QUITE happy. Part of that happiness came from the fact that I wasn't relying on anyone else to make my life fulfilling and content. The people I include in my life, such as my husband...ADD to the happiness, joy, and fullfillment, they are not responsible for it....I am. If you are not happy with who YOU are, no one else can make you happy CeMar.
