Thank you for the advice, your right, when I left I begged him to let me come home, I tried to bargin with him, anything, it just made him more mad and he would hang up on me. It is so hard because now we are so far apart. It is my fault, I had no support there so I ran to my family. I know we both have made mistakes, our marriage was not perfect, but we love each other. I know he still loves me. He says this has nothing to do with love, that he realizes that he has to make changes and doesnt think he can do it with me. We are both at fault for where we are today, I am willing to take responsibility for my actions. But I feel like a failure, we have 15 years together and 3 daughters. Today is the first time I havent called him since we left, so I am off to a start, not a good start because I am dying to talk to him, but a least its a start!