Good luck to you.

try not to go to any extremes. Dont be reactive to the crazy things he does. Maybe just try to let him do what he thinks he needs to do for now.

HE's the one trying to "find himself". you should already know who you are.

Be as consistant to yourself as you can. take care of yourself. Let him do the crazy pendulum swinging of behaviour. Try to find a peaceful inner place for yourself, that you can wait in.

to quote that other site: "Be the lighthouse".
Let the waves crash around you, and expend their energy uselessly around your stable base.
Keep your light shining, as a beacon for the way home, when he is ready.


Last edited by Dom R; 07/20/07 05:03 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle