In a wierd way, once I finally understand how responsible I was for where we were in the R, and could really understand how I had made my W feel, I stopped blaming her and holding on to her and started really looking at me. I don't know why that's giving me a feeling of peace, but it has.
I agree, this is helping me detatch too, although it bothered me that she went out last night, it didn't bother me as much as it had in the past because for one, I expected her to go out so it wasn't a surprise when she did, and two, I know that although this sucks and knowing that the woman I love says she doesn't love me, I know that life will go on.
Me:38 W: 35 Married 11 years 2 daughters ages 7 and 3 D filed by her [url]http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1143353&page=2#Post1143353[/url]