WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[Heimlich]

WAW,

I'm glad that you've realized that your H was controlling you and you're breaking away. My first step-dad was that way toward my Mom and you don't want your D growing up in that type of M and thinking that's normal.

That said, I would encourage you to continue the C. It sounds like you still have feelings for your H and at least by going to the MC and giving it a chance, you won't look back a year or two years from now and wonder "what if?"

I'd also like to thank you for writing out what you wanted to hear from your H. I told my W a very close approximation of that last Sunday. Nice to know I was on target from someone with similar feelings as my W.

Hang in there and keep having fun. If you're MC has pointed out to your H that he is controlling, maybe you could ask if it would be beneficial for you to point out his behavior as he does it? Just a thought.

Hang in there,

BD