Hi, Phoenix..I don't think I have ever posted to your thread..As I was reading I saw so much of my sitch with yours!!Funny how we all have similar problems!!!I too for a long time tried to figure out how I could really change myself so h would"like" me better..then I came here and read the books...I like most things about myself...there are certain things about all of us that we shouldn't even think about changing..and now I feel comfortable about so much..I have some bad habits to still work on..and I too would like to lose some more weight..believe me I know about the mental boost of losing weight..I lost 30 pounds last spring..on purpose, not because of sitch...and I look pretty darn good, and it reflects in all other areas of life. I am a little sad that my h never once said you look good..but hten all during our m, he never has complimented me on anything..and I guess I nvever did him either..we have a lot to learn in that area..sounds like you are doing some great things for yourself..and going slow is the key.. and of course PATIENCE!! my favorite word..I did not read all your posts, but is your h not at home? I have come to be ok without him here, and it has been just what he felt he needed..he is not so tense and edgy. Keep up your good work..glad to have met you!! Sue
