Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Dom R]

ask you if there is any part of your brain that thinks we could work out.

stop asking this question, or anything like it. It's not useful, and besides which, you will not get any kind of positive answer.

As far as I can see, your only avenue of conversation in the near future, is to ask him how "he tried" recently. And just listen. only listen. Ask questions to understand, but thats about it.

He's fully headed out the door now. not "trial separation", but "we are getting separated". he's made up his mind on that for right now.

Everytime I think I am detaching, I can smell him and just want to jump all over him.

sounds like you are desperately clingy, and cant help yourself and it is driving him away.


after you listen to him about how "he tried"... and waiting a day, and thinking about any possible response A DAY LATER... and discussing it with him...

after all that, maybe you need to separate from him, just like he asked.
Stay away from him. no more "booty calls". no nothing. dont come anywhere near him. Tell him that you cant take the hurt of being rejected by him now... and since he wants to "be separated", you will start acting that way right away, since that is what he says he wants.
Separate rooms when at all possible, separate beds, separate meal times, separate everything.

after you've listened to him.
I think his "i tried" is a total cop-out, and he didnt really.
But even if he DID actually put effort into something... the thing is, it wasnt effort into anything that actually helps marriages. Dont point that out to him when he lists his stuff of "how he tried". Only bring that up in the later talk.

Good luck.