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false hope? no, it's because the alien recognizes it would actually HELP our MARRIAGE, so it cant be allowed


I see what you're saying, but my point is that they are so selfish right now that they really aren't interested in anything that could help the M. They are in their own world...so, while we try our hardest to make it work, they aren't really working at it. They try to make it seem like they try, but they don't. They just spew and turn everything around on us. In the beginning, my H first left for about a 2 weeks, then he came back to try and work things out. He was here for a WEEK. Something came up about OW and he was out. What did he think he could accomplish in a week? He didn't try, he just wanted to say he did. He didn't want to try and help me get over OW sitch...HE wasn't even over OW. He just wanted some way to get over his guilt.

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She doesnt seem to be very happy overall. But she's determined to not forgive, and not look back.

My H seems to be the same way. There are times when I wonder if he is happier when he is away from me and then he is gloomy when he is around me. What does she have to forgive you for? My H blames everything on me for something I did 8 years ago. He said he forgives me, but he can never forget. He said he now believes in repressed feelings because he never really thought about it until now. I have taken responsibility for what I have done and many people I have talked to don't believe this is something to D over. H even told me that his best friend told him that, but he just tells him that he has no idea what he is feeling. Kind of ironic how this all comes up when he tells OW he has feelings for her?!?!? \:\/ Whatever, I think it's all a load of crap. He wanted out because he doesn't want the responsibility of a family anymore. He knows it's wrong, that's why he has to come up with all of these justifications. Don't get me wrong, I know where my faults lie in our R, but the difference is that I was willing to work and change, he wasn't!

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