I want to work things out

[jtodd]

Cadesmom-i've enjoyed several of your posts and noticed you mentioned the After the Affair book. I bought it and have been reading through it on my own. My H got busted w/ an EA w/ my best friend so he is still getting over her. For now, he's willing to stay w/ me and says he wants to TRY to work it out since i'm pregnant w/ our 1st child, although he doesn't know how that can happen. Our time together is somewhat more pleasant now(we can talk w/out arguing but no affection) but he acts as if he's mad at me-almost disgusted w/ me. Do I even bother starting this book w/ him even though he doesn't seem willing? I don't wanna push him away-i've been doing well w/ my 180 so far. But at the same time, he sees that nothing is changing & doesn't see how any book or person can help us(he acts as if it's all my fault that our marriage was going bad and that we're not meant to be anyway) and is still feeling hopeless about our M. what do you think? Thanks for your thoughts.