Why is that? Why is it that any talk of the relationship PUSHES them further away? I know this is my POV and I'm not expecting her to abide by it, but if you have a problem, how do you solve it by running away and not talking about it? OK, she's hurt, VERY HURT, and I caused a lot of it. I'm taking my reponsibility, I'm being a man about it. I'm not angry, I'm not blaming her, I simply think being together JUST a little bit can help smootht things over, OVER TIME. I'm not expecting an overnight miracle, I know there is work to do. What is it in the WAS that doesn't allow them to want to work on things? Is it that they think they already did? Even though there wasn't a team effort? Even though the decision to D was unilateral? What is there to lose in talking things over for a while, letting things settle, getting over the anger and pain, helping each other rather than letting the pain fester?

I know there may not be an answer to all these, and it's different for all WAS's perhaps, at least in level of magnitude. I'd just like to better understand my wife and she won't share much so I'm looking for clarification elsewhere right now. Maybe one of these days she'll let me in...

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...