i'm in a ticking time bomb-help!

[jtodd]

I'm still new at this and already have gotten tons of great advice-I hope someone can help.
It's been a month since my H's EA was busted by the OW's husband-and I found out I was pregnant(we had been trying for a year-me not knowing about the EA until it was too late), my H has told me he's not in love w/ me anymore-he had such a 'connnection' w/ the OW. The EA is over (the OW & her H both assure me-plus my H knows if it's not he will never see this baby).Now he feels like he needs to stay for the baby's sake (coming in January) and wants our M to work out but doesn't think it will-he has no clue how he'll ever have feelings for me again. He's giving us a deadline-if we haven't fixed things by next May-he's gone. Yet he's doing nothing to fix things.
Sure that seems like a decent amount of time but I feel like the pressure is really on-especially since I know life will get crazy once our 1st child comes-my emotions are already a wreck!
I am considering phone cons. w/ DB but want to make sure I've done all that I can before I get there. I have my emotions in check now and he's been somewhat nicer-we can actually carry on short conversations but no affection whatsoever. I am spending time w/ friends; making my own decisions; organizing.
here's what I need to know: What do I do to keep things rolling?Do we talk about why this affair happened so we can begin to prevent it again? Anything else?I just feel like i'm sitting back waiting and nothing is changing!