Don't know if something more progressive will happen this weekend because we go to see the ST on Monday
Four days till Monday. I can think of lots of things to do till then.
My back itches. Will you scratch it?
I have a dry spot on my back. Would you put some lotion on it?
Give me your knickers.
Sorry, for being so blunt but, the only way I get some where with BB is to be blunt. Maybe Mr. HW needs some opportunities to open up. Something he almost can’t say no to.
I am sure H will be feeling a little pressure that he will have nothing to tell the ST about our "progress"
But you have had progress!!! You sure as heck weren't sleeping in the nude together before, right??
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
No we weren't and, yes, that is progress but the ST wanted at least two sessions of the sensate focusing within the first week and here we are into the third week.
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Maybe Mr. HW needs some opportunities to open up. Something he almost can’t say no to.
Trust me, I have given him LOTS of "opportunities" which he finds oodles of ways of evading. When I ask for a back rub/scratch, that's exactly what I get and nothing more, regardless of my "suggestions" and/or advances
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Well, first off, I don't want to discourage you, pry or meddle.
Sometimes reading the forum is like me owning a shoe factory that has excess production and seeing people over the border practically shoeless and with money and wanting a style I make. BUT there are to many restrictions, legalities, and customs, for me to overcome, to supply the need on the other side of the border. By all proper customs and laws I can’t supply anyone but my assigned customer base. All I can do is turn out a few pairs a month to the customer I have.
I will go along with CDM34. You both have made progress when you compare what has gone on recently, when compared to a year or two ago. In some ways, when added up, the progress is huge.
Yes, you are right. Every once in a while I have to take a step back and think what I was feeling back around December - yuck!! Could it be worse - absolutely, can it be better - definitely. And, that's the part I am working towards.
I know there will be ups and downs for a long while yet but I am surviving them easier than I did before.
The latest "curve" is OW called him again last night and left a VM message on his cell. She said something along the lines of "I have left you a couple of messages but you haven't returned them. I know you probably don't want to talk to me" But, he told me about it and I guess that is the main thing. The part that bugs me is he is still holding out changing his number, although he did say "if this continues" he would change it but that's rather vague isn't it. I can understand what a pain in the butt it would be to change his number - what with all his contacts for work and all already knowing his number but what about me? Some consideration would be nice. However, like I said, I have to think of the positive and that at least he told me
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Heywyre...he either needs to change that number pronto...OR, make a "No Contact" phone call with you present. Then if the calls persist, change his number anyway.
This is something he needs to be putting you first in. Not the fact that "he doesn't like to hurt people's feelings" or the fact that it can be a pain to change phone numbers when the phone is used for business purposes.
Oh, and yes he is making progress...at least this time, you were told quickly. Not a day or two....or more later.
He could possibly block OW's phone numbers from calling his cell phone. Check the owner's manual. It won't stop her from calling from a phone booth, but it might help her get the message through her thick head. (And someone recently said that MEN don't ever stop this kind of behavior!)
Her H gave the OW money!!!! I think that would be a big incentive for her to keep calling. However, I too hope that she gets the message sooner rather than later when he does not call her back.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
"opportunities" which he finds oodles of ways of evading.