Kicking him off the fence

[Heartbroken]

Happy Friday Lovely Olive,

I am in for any girls nite!! I would even do the bikini thing too - now since the DB diet was sooooo successful!

Your H is in la-la land and whatever he says about you has no real validity. He sees you as he wants to - he want to keep his tunnel vision - to admit you have grown and changed means he might have to admit that HE needs some serious changing as well.

You said it yourself - few people have 1 good friend let alone FIVE!!!

If he is the best friend you think he is/was the fear of losing that with you may be enough to lure him back - that was a piece of it for my H. I was telling him how I was house hunting and he replied he'd be there to paint or fix whatever and I ulitmately told he we were not going to have that kind of R - I would be 'friendly' due to our kids - but we WOULD NOT BE FRIENDS - I could not, it would hurt too much....

My week of vacation away with the kids was maybe the best thing that happened in our sitch. He got a real taste of what his life was heading towards - a lot of time alone. His crazy OW started showing more of her true colors and how manipulative she can be. Let your H see the OW for what she truly is - we always want what we can't have - so let him have her. You GAL and starting to move on may be the only thing to lure him back - then the real work begins.

You are doing awesome and like everyone says you will work this out in your own timeframe...

PMA and have an awesome Friday!

HB