Wow that's great. I only wish my H would help, My h works a lot so there is never any helping. Its just me... sometimes I feel more like a single parent.. actually I feel that way all the time and then he tells me I'm not strict enough with my 4 1/2 year old... Just another critisim of his.
My kids are mommy's boys, but can you blame them?? they are with my 24/7, and he rarely sees them. Don't get me wrong I know he loves them but he thinks raises kids is cut and dry. My boys are disciplined, but they are boys and are extremly active and can't sit still. He expects me to do stuff for the business, but inturn make sure I punish them accordingly.. ya know what, some things have to fall by the waste side if im going to get anything done around here!!
sorry.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
My W thinks buying a Video games is being a parent. Then she complains that he is alway in front of the game. Does she offer to take him out side and play? NO. Where is she when she gets home? IN FRONT OF THE T.V
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Im telling you its the same here. He complains that they are all over him when he gets home... DUH they crave spending time with him... its sads, you only get one shot of being with them especially the early years, they are so precious. Even though they may get on my nerves at times, I wouldn't have it any other way..
They don't get it and being a mom, I definately don't get your wife.
Just realized your in CA... wow Im in Ny far far away... have you ever been to NY?
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
TL, Never been farther east than Arizona. My son IS my best friend. He seems to know the right things to say to make me feel better. He is the Main reason I did not just throw in the towel the day I found out about the PA. Now I am not staying just because of him, but thinking about him gave me the time to think about my marriage and not make any rash decisions.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
that's nice, that you have that relationship. I don't have anyone to confide in just one friend.
Just spoke to H, he was in a bad mood... I asked him what took him so long to get home, he said he was up in Lake george, I said it must be nice (he didn't have to go mind you, but chose to and now wants me to feel sorry for him... NOT!!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
TL,' I have learned to give the W plenty of room when she gets home. Never know what mood she is in. Since I have been dbing though she comes home in a beter mood. 2 months ago after she was home for a while I would ask her "how did your day go?" She would look at me like I was a idiot and say "OK"
Now she tells me about this happening or that happening. she has started to opened up.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Looks like you are more likely to have an affair than he is -- for emotional reasons.
I recommend reading the Divorce Remedy.
Regarding the "Adult Friend Finder" posting. I think your husband was looking for what people call a f*ck-buddy. It's unacceptable behavior. Had someone responded to his posting, he would have probably hooked up with them.
It also seems that his sex life with you is mostly him getting a good f*ck rather than actually making love. Which is why he seems to be drawn to extremes. Any abuse in his background?
1. Work on getting a life. Meet some nice moms in your area, swap baby-sitting and get out a little bit. I'd like you to take some time to re-discover yourself. Take up some old hobbies you've neglected, take up some new hobbies that would interest you.
2. Get some excercize. Get in shape. It'll give you more energy and self-confidence.
3. It's not your job to be at home waiting for him 274X 7 to provide meals for him, care for your kids, clean your house and be his sex goddess.
4. Here's a weekly suggestion: one night he goes out for a guys night (you watch kids) one night you go out for a girls night (he watches kids) and one night a week you go out on a date (get a babysitter). You get babysitter and HE plans the date. The more romantic/intersting it is, the more nookie he gets from you. ;-)
