Where does he sleep?

[SallyM]

of course it matters! I'm sorry, I can't tell you it doesn't. it does, on so many levels. unless you are willing and ready to D, I don't see how it doesn't matter.

in my case, right now, H is living with his mom. that is okay with me. trust me, if he moved in with OW, that would very much matter. even if he was moving around from place to place, it would matter to me. maybe the latter because we have kids, I don't know.

I have to say, I have drawn many lines in the sand over the past few months that he has had no problem crossing. I, idiot that I am, have stepped back pretty much every time, and drawn a new line (like it matters). but this is a line I don't think even I could step back from.

listen, in my book, its common courtesy, especially when kids are involved. and as for why he is lying, well, honestly, its because he is an ass. sorry, for me it all comes down to that. if he was any kind of man, he would own up and face whatever consequences come his way. or maybe he's just an ass in that he knows it gets to you, the not knowing, so he's playing with you. there is always the off chance that he is ashamed, but again, why hide that? is one place so much better than another?

honestly, about confronting him, only do that if you are willing and ready to face whatever might result.

good luck!

eta, no way in hell would I let him fall asleep and let the kids think he was "home." I know it was adorable at the time, but omg, in the kids minds, daddy is home again, and I am not playing that game. even this weekend is going to be a bit conflicted for me. I'm going to NYC on a girls weekend, and H is going to come here to stay with the kids. Now, they know he is not home and won't be deluded into thinking he is...we've talked about it with them. but at the same time, part of me is even wondering if that is a good idea.