Good post, PNT. I like the year-away goals. Visualizing helps.
I just got caught up on your sitch. I think it was clever you initiating the duel B-day get-together with your H. And him saying, ILY is wonderful. Congrats on that point.
I know you're frustrated with his apparant apathy, but do you notice him coming around at all? It might be a curious experiment to go dark and see what he does...whether he puts out some of the effort you want to see. Or, maybe instead of calling him once/week (are you still doing this), then call him once every two weeks. I was only thinking about this because of two comments you've made: 1) About wanting him to make "some" effort; 2) That things that are "more expensive" are valued more. Would more expensive to him mean you take less initiative, thus making yourself more enticing?
Just a few random thoughts. Hope you're having a great day.
