Bob
Didn't read your whole story but everybody is accountable for their own actions. Just like us we can chose to NEED our spouses or we can prefer to be with our spouses. Eater way if we stay it's our choice.
I may have not done something right in my marriage but it was my wife choice to sleep with OM

Husband


And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know