Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Dom R]

reposting this, 'cause I think it got lost: i edited it in, but you were already replying to the original:

BTW: I dont think he "recognizes" anything. he may parrot the words, "yeah i get it", but I dont think he really believes the 15 hours will give you and he a great marriage.

I dont think any sane person, could recognize that "if you do X, you will have a GREAT, Fulfilling, Loving Marriage!", and not do X.

The possible exceptions being:

a) he thinks you are a truely horrible person [that doesnt seem to be the case]

b) he has decided that he wants to be selfish, and just pursue sex with a [tall/short] woman, whereas you are [short/tall]

[or assorted variants on, "he thinks he wants something that you are incapable of providing him"]

i dont think that's the case.

Unless maybe he's looking for that "strong, self-controlled woman", and he doesnt believe you are capable of THAT.