Due to my recent experiences I was reflecting on the fact that one issue that is less frequently discussed on this BB is sexual compatibility on the basis of sheer physicality. Of course, being one who tends towards living in the "enchanted cottage" of fantasy and monkey-brain sexuality, I have had the tendency to perhaps undervalue this in the past. However, if you consider that sex really is a lot like dancing on some level, there is something beneficial about having a partner with whom you are physically compatible. From the POV of the female this would mean somebody who is a strong frame for you. I think a good deal of the reason why new guy and I have such great sex is simply due to the fact that we are a very well-matched couple physically. I'm 5'9" 169 and quite muscular at the moment and he is around 6'1" , maybe 215 and very, very muscular. Also, we're very much lock and key otherwise. So, it's like we move around from position to position almost effortlessly. I was looking on Wikipedia to see if I could find the real name of the position I described on Chrome's thread and I couldn't find it but I came across a description for a position called The Piledriver and the article said that you would be like an expert porn star if you could do this move. My thought was it would be easy as pie for me to do it with new guy. I guess the first minor point I'm trying to make here is that it's really hard to know all the different things that might add or subtract from anyone's sexual comfort or confidence during an encounter. I guess the second minor point I'm trying to make is that lifting weights will quite possibly improve your sex life - lol. I also had the sort of horrifyingly superficial thought that maybe a lot of the problem with my marital sex life had to do with the fact that he was so naturally skinny and I am so naturally Amazonian that I would have had to be very unhealthily thin for me (my hip bones and ribs are clearly visible and jutting at 139) in order to be as proportionally "pin-down-able" as I am relative to new guy. Of course, the other reason I wouldn't have ever attempted The Piledriver with my 2bx was that he really just wasn't that into f*cking.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I've noticed that, as Mrs. Eddie approaches her ideal weight, a number of wonderful things happen:
1. Deeper penetration... yes, it does make a difference. 2. More hip action on her part. 3. Kegel muscles come more into play. 4. More flexibility. 5. More positions - her smaller butt makes doggie and reverse cowgirl a lot easier. Looking forward to reverse cowgirl with me seated, and then later holding her in midair with her legs wrapped around me. Spoon penetration will also be nice, as will penetrating her while she's standing or leaning in various places. 6. Better g-spot contact and stimulation.
I'm kind of scared to put her into the piledriver position. It looks like too much of her weight would be on her head and neck.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
The Moose - Man behind woman, doggy style. When she isn't looking, man raises hands to the head, palms spread and thumbs touching the ears. Sticking out of the tongue is optional. The Richard Nixon - Similar to the moose, only instead of looking like a moose, the man makes a 'V' with his index and middle fingers. The Pathetic - Woman standing, man on knees in front of her. Man begs for sex. Rodeo style - Man penetrates woman, preferably doggy style, and then says "you know, you do it just like your sister", and tries to stay inside for 8 seconds.
I totally agree w/ Eddie -- I know that, by me losing quite a bit of weight during my D sitch, I became A LOT more sexually agressive. Obviously, a lot more confident in my looks, etc. Unfortunately, sometimes, that self-confidence w/ looks does not necessarily immediately make you feel better about yourself "overall" (mentally), however, it sure does help!
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Rodeo style - Man penetrates woman, preferably doggy style, and then says "you know, you do it just like your sister", and tries to stay inside for 8 seconds.
I thought the woman said "How do I load this gun" when that happened?
I read this post earlier and it started me thinking and I think you are right about how being well matched physically can make sex more enjoyable. I have been pondering this since I read it the first time hours ago. And the best sexual interludes I have had have not been with a person that wrapping my legs around felt like they were being torn out of there sockets. Nor when there weight lowered down on me felt like my chest was caving in. Nope the best lovers I ever had were more my build height and weight. It was more then just the fact it lacked the painfull aspects to it but positioning and movement seemed to flow more naturally also. It was more of a fit to comfort allowing for more enjoyment I guess.
But whats a girl to do the fact is I like the big brawny type which does not match up to me physically at all.
sexual compatibility on the basis of sheer physicality I have to say I go along with almost all of what you are saying.
Being almost a foot taller than BB overwhelms her if I am on top. Then add in she is claustrophobic, doesn't like any weight on her, bruises if a volley ball hits her leg, and generally likes every touch to be very light.
It makes it so I have to tread ever so lightly when I have any physical contact with her. No bucking bronc or ride-em-cowboy activities and back massages have to be light. BB prefers a feather tease to almost anything else.
Pile driver question. I can imagine the position. My question is what pleasure is in it for the female? I could think bragging rights, that you could do it. But aren’t other positions much more pleasurable?
My thoughts are, why do it mostly to please a guy? I haven’t been in the position of being one who tends towards living in the "enchanted cottage" of fantasy and monkey-brain sexuality One problem I have with porn in movies is, although the female might act like she is having a good time, I don’t see the guy that much for her pleasure. I see please the guy at almost all expense with the female putting in most of the effort (acting).
