Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Dom R]

*wave*.

Hm.. you didnt answer the question in the way i was hoping.. was hoping to hear how you had tackled the "lets do 15 hours" _recently_
What was the "more intense" approach that you took, that backfired?


BTW: I dont think he "recognizes" anything. he may parrot the words, "yeah i get it", but I dont think he really believes it.

I dont think any sane person, could recognize that "if you do X, you will have a GREAT, Fulfilling, Loving Marriage!", and not do X.

The possible exceptions being:

a) he thinks you are a truely horrible person [that doesnt seem to be the case]

b) he has decided that he wants to be selfish, and just pursue sex with a [tall/short] woman, whereas you are [short/tall]

[or assorted variants on, "he thinks he wants something that you are incapable of providing him"]

i dont think that's the case.

Do you have a thread of your own?

nope. you might say I'm "hiding". but still trying to learn, while I do.

i had one on "that other site", which is why i know so much about those principles. (avoiding mentioning it to avoid searches picking up this account of mine)


but i believe my wife found it, and it undermined the efforts I was making. and in one case, caused horrible horrible damage... (through misunderstanding)... possibly prompting her to serve papers on me. she's never admitted it, but I'm fairly sure, at this point.

i stopped posting there, both because of that, but also because those methods did not serve my marriage. or at least, the forum posters there didnt. So narrow-minded, and in some cases, hateful.

Over here, there is more acknowlegement, that an MLC needs a different approach than a straightforward affair. (they dont even acknowlege the concept, really).

My wife is on her... 5th? online affair.
Way MLC.