Reading this thread has honestly given me a personal pep talk that I can be calm and forward thinking too. Thank you for sharing like you have!
I also have responsibility of our kids (4 and 2.5) about 95% of the time. I recently found http://www.meetup.com . It's not a singles sight but rather a place that peopel can self organized based on location and interest. For instance I just joined a rock climbing group and hiking group for when I do have time to myself, but I've joined a couple parent outing groups that do things like bike rides on trails or tubing/swimming and so on. Just watch out for the ones that talk about single parents/newly single. I've heard many tall tales about those groups
Me: 28 H: 29 Married 5 yrs Two sweet and ornery little ones 4 and 2.5