Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Dom R]

How have you been approaching the "spend 15 hours" so far? specifically, what kind of wording?

BTW: you're mixing and matching two differrent styles here.
MB, and DB. they dont neccessarily blend well in all situations.

MB is for both people to eventually commit to, "stick to the plan, it works " (after initial "plan A" type stuff to show the other person the benefits, and that you are sincere.)

DB i think is more for a SINGLE person, to effect change, through changing themselves.

if you believe that the MB style of 15 hours of together time, will dramatically improve your relationship.. go for it.
if you could get him to live up to his promise.. I think it could turn around your marriage, personally.

If you instead believe that is a lost cause... then give up on that, and go for more DB style stuff.
However, at this nasty, critical juncture in your relationship, where he's moving it to.. I think you'd better pay for a professional DB coach, TODAY, because otherwise, your situation needs serious experienced help, beyond the usual, "GAL", type stuff.

there's my "my marriage is still a mess" opinion, anyways...