If you know the problem, what you have to/want to do, then do it. The only way you can fix yourself is to address your problems. I too have had to develop that frame of mind, mainly because I got tired of the guilt trips and someone pushed it too hard once.
To many of us let other people over fill our lives just because we don't want them to be let down. In the end it usually makes us want to avoid them and less likely to offer service willingly. Most of them don't figure this out till after the damage is done.
