I have thought about this for a while, I know Ian will chime in and say his piece.
I am going dark.
Reasons? *Too many confrontational arguments over petty stuff
*W likes to badger me and push my buttons
*I let her (need to control myself)
*W still wants to control her H.....ME, and the sitch
*I hate this separation
*I need time alone to reflect and calm down a lot more
*I have too many things going on
*She makes herself at home in the house and still has a trailer to retreat to
*Sex is out the window (but that's a given when she left and stopped going to therapy to work on the M)......I just had to throw this one in there....
I am not going full-blown dark, but dark enough to not deal with her if I don't have to. No more going out, shooting the breeze, nothing. Just "hi" and "bye". I can't even stand to enter to run-down mobile home. She has all kinds of guys over to "help her fix the place up". I see that she is capable of taking care of herself, yet she constantly nick picks at me when there is no need to - again, it comes down to her wanting "control" of me.
Besides, I am still P.O.ed by all of this, and I need a break from her. I am also trynig to figure out if I want to be with her at all. I am finding out that there is too much irreparable damage, and I would be insane to stay with her anyway. I am thinking long and hard.
Your right Sol, I will chime in. I will tell you that it is about fricken time dude. Go as dark as humanly possible. Only interact on a need to basis, kid swapping and such.
Not for nothing, but maybe quit thinking for a while dude. You don't have to decide anything right now. You just need to get some space and let her be her crazy self. You will know in your heart when it is over for you and it is "irreparable" until then, just quit worrying about it.
If I were you I would move on with my life, don't start dating or anything, just move on as if your done and get your life the way you want it. In the end you will know if it is over.....
