I'm sorry to hear that DR. How long have you been at this? I remember when H first left, we used to share these very touching emails and H would always say thank you and he would compliment me on things too. I don't mean to discourage you or anything, but I think it is normal that they "feel" touched by things...let's face it, no one can completely turn off feelings, they just have a good way of hiding it. The truth is that they're are so uncertain about their feelings that they're scared to share them. They don't want to get our hopes up. That's probably the most thoughtful thing the WAS/MLCer does.
When things started to change and H and I weren't having those types of emails or talks, I got scared and confronted him on D. Well, that's all it took for him...he just wanted ME to say it. I wish I would have just been patient and waited for him to say it. I think he would have had to come to terms with it more if he had to say it to me face to face.
Although somewhat the same, we are all in different sitch so I'm not saying you should do one thing or the other. I just know what I went through and where I'm at now.
The truth is that the WAS/MLC just doesn't know. They are in limbo just like we are...the difference is that we are waiting in limbo and they are in limbo because they just don't know what to do...they are confused, they know some of what they want is wrong, they are struggling with some deep, unidentified feelings.
Hang in there DR, be patient, remain calm and above all worry about YOU! UB
