The spiritual thing is VERY hard. Here's why. You know God doesn't want you to be divorced. The family is THE central unit of God's plan! WHY would he ever want it broken up if there was no infidelity or serious abuse? He wouldn't, I assure you.
You're right, I know and I think I was trying to get her to see God's point of view in all this.
So, when she comes in and says she's received confirmation that God has told her it's OK to be divorced, what can you say? Any rebuttal is questioning her spirituality, right? You can't do that to her anymore than someone could do it to you.
Ding ding right again and it's not my job to convict her.
HOWEVER, there is plenty of scripture that tells us in no uncertain terms that the Spirit will not manifest itself to us nor confirm that which is NOT true or good or praise-worthy.
Philippians 4:8
So, if your W decides that she is going to ignore the words of Prophets that God has chosen to reveal his word, then she is fooling herself and you have no control over that. All you can do it deal with it. If you made mistakes in the marriage and you've tried to repent and make ammends and she can't forgive you for it, that is her sin. If she decides to ignore God's will for your family, that is her sin.
She is ignoring God and she is doing exactly what she wants to do. And I have no control over that nor her. Yes I have made mistakes in my marriage and we all have, but that's what forgiveness is for. The mistakes that I've made does not warrant this, she's following her own lust and temptations, which has nothing to do with me. She has stop blaming me for her leaving because she never had a leg to stand on and she was trying to convince and justify her actions. But in the instant gratification and fast food society that we live in today, no one wants to work for anything anymore. All a spouse has to do is wake up one morning and say you said the wrong thing to me, I want a D and that's it. Two people to get married and one to say I don't want this anymore and that's it, it's over!
Yes, it sucks, no it doesn't make you feel any better, but it's the cold, awful truth. No amount of "spirituality" if used to rationalize wrong behavior will ever make the sin less of a sin.
It's funny that you say this when we both studied under one of the best Theologians in our area and he use to teach on this stuff all the time. It's funny how people try to justify and rationalize their behavior. Proverbs 30:20 This is the way of an adulterous woman: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, "I have not done wrong".
So, you make sure you're right with God. Make sure your heart is in the right place. replace all anger with peace and forgiveness. replace all fear with faith. And YOU will be in the right place for Him to work on you. THAT is actually a nice consolation that will work to your benefit over your lifetime.
God is all that I've had through all of this and I am so grateful for that, because I don't know where I would be with out Him. I've forgiven her for what she's done and I'm not angry with her, do I like what she's done? No. God is in control and all I can do is trust the sovereign God of the universe. I know that He loves his children and I recognized early on in all of this is this is a growth opportunity and a chance to get a better understanding of Him and His love. His peace that surpasses all understanding will guard my heart in Christ Jesus.
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
