But plese see Sandi2's post on NDDT's thread that I 'stole' earlier. It surely fits your sitch - esp this latest bit - as well.
This was good thanks, W is talking to me again , I was out of town last night and she was home when I got back, I had txt her to let her know when I would be home so she had the chance to escape but she stayed and had a coffee. She is an emotional wreck though , I can tell . Everythings still about her at this stage though. I am just going to stand back a bit for my own sanity . Still be friendly and helpful when she asks but other than that leave her to herself for a while.
{{{D}}} back at ya! Hope you're doing something good for C_K today.
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
Me: 45 - WAH: 36 S8; D6 M: 11 yrs 07/06 Initial Bomb 10/06; D Bomb 11/06 - DBing begun 1/5/07 - H moved out 03/16/07 To date: No papers filed; H not seen a L; trying to convince me to MUTUALLY file for D
I would say, "C_K, what are you doing up so early?" but I realize that it is probably the middle of the day for you or something.
I think you are being incredible strong and are handling your sitch very well. You care about your W's well-being, but you realize that she is going to have to go through what she does on her own. Keep up the good work.
It has become more evident as days go by that W is a time bomb of emotions ready to go off. This is due in part to her guilt and inability to talk to even her best F friend about her sitch. I am begining to suspect that her R with OM may have come to an end and shes faced with the aftermath and its overwhelming her. Thats just a guess at this stage though.
I dont know what to do about this but am looking at this sitch from quite a different perspective now. Right now I realy need to be a as solid and reliable as I can. To give her lots of space but support her in what she is doing, to support the Kids.
GAL activities have been curtailed a bit from being a full time working Dad , W has only had D for 3 nights so far so I am pretty much looking after them. I just need to get a bit more organised.
You are really handling this with enormous grace and strength. I hope that someday your W will be able to realize how much you have been there for her through it all. You should be proud of how you have stepped up for your whole family...
It has become more evident as days go by that W is a time bomb of emotions ready to go off.
Did something happen again since her getting upset at you for disclosing info to your friends?
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Right now I realy need to be a as solid and reliable as I can. To give her lots of space but support her in what she is doing, to support the Kids.
That sounds right on the money.
You're staying busy it sounds like, and that is good. You'll figure out how to get better organized and fit in some GAL activities. Great job on turning the down the date That is definitely something you can be proud of right now, and if things between you and W end up working out, then you'll feel even better about that choice.
Right now I realy need to be a as solid and reliable as I can. To give her lots of space but support her in what she is doing, to support the Kids.
That sounds like the wise way to go, Dave. Somehow when you try to help them through it, you get tagged with the negative association.
By just keeping up with the manly strength, & I'm not even saying that in a humorous way, you'll be all the more attracting to her, there's no doubt in my mind as I'm picturing it.
Best,
Sunny
It is harder to GAL when you're doing it all, isn't it!
Did something happen again since her getting upset at you for disclosing info to your friends?
Yes , My sister sent me a card of support and W sent Sis an abusive E Mail , the contents I have not seen , but when I phoned Sis to thank her for the card she told me. W was at home while I was away with work when the card arrived in the mail. It was sealed when I got home so W must have steamed it open and reglued it. If this is the case it is so far out of character for W that it has me quite concerned. I certainly will not confront her with it though as that will only do more harm.
I asked Sis not to do anything also , that the anger is at the world , not her. Its all a bit crazy as we have very little to do with my Sis and her family.
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Great job on turning the down the date That is definitely something you can be proud of right now
That is definitely something you can be proud of right now, and if things between you and W end up working out, then you'll feel even better about that choice.