Stew, I know this is so hard, I still struggle alot too, but you have to try and just let things be. The one thing I tell myself daily is that I can't control what he does, and he will do what he does, whatever that is, I have in my mind decisions made if he was to return to the old ways. That all I can do right now, I just have to let things be. And that is what you are going to have to do. The hours she work are and issue, but again you can't do much about that, so whatever time you do spend together make it count, and don't push, which you do seem to be doing a great job with. If and when she is ready she will talk to you. I think I would bring the weekend up again, only because its been planned and see what she says.
You are doing a great job and you should be really proud of yourself!!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!