WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[waw1978]

Stew

Its very hard to tackle this one as I am sure its different for each WAW. For me, my H would have to back off completely and let me have total control over my own time/space/schedule etc for me to feel less resentful of him. That is a start. Cause right now, I do not want him around or calling me or asking me to do anything with him. If I feel like doing something with him, I would rather be the one asking. Otherwise every invitation he presents seems like "pressure" because I am the bad guy saying over and over "no, not interested". Which btw just makes me more resentful to be constantly put on the spot. I guess for me, because I am only a month into this the only thing he can do to show me he "gets it" is backing off completely until I am ready to interact with him. The other thing, is when I do interact with him, I do not want to be pressed for when we are going to do something else. He needs to enjoy the time he gets and be appreciative. He has to remember that I was about a milisecond away from leaving him and never looking back.

I am still very new to this so my reaction might sound cold. Our "Bomb" was only a month ago. It could take many months or years for me to get over being so angry at him.